Thursday, May 3, 2012

I knew it had to happen...

I knew it would happen sooner of later, one of the kids asked me today how Gee died. It started because A asked me what Hospice was/meant. He is reading a book which has a character enter a hospice center.  After explaining that it was more of an idea than a place. That it is a method of care that helps dying  people come to the end of their lives without pain and with dignity. That many people choose to stop all other medical care and die in peace.

Then he said it, like your husband? Yes A, like my husband. So I told him that after many, many years of fighting cancer Gee decided he was done. No more treatments, he had had enough. That he wanted to die at home, so we brought him home. After thinking about it for a minute he says,  I bet you miss him.....Yes A I  miss him....

I had thought it was going to be this very traumatic issue for me, and it really wasn't. It was very matter of fact, no drama just information. It is now that I become emotional. When A was asking questions I guess because he was sincere and the whole conversation came about so gradually it was more of a teaching moment than a personal one.

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